They title of the blog says it all. But a lot of times we do know what we have and we do appreciate and love it. But when its gone we punish ourselves by saying we didn't love or care enough or spend enough time, etc. But in truth we are mourning and we'll never love or cherish enough during life to somehow avoid the pain of death or loss.
My cat is sick right now and may die and if she does I'll feel like I didn't spend enough time with her, or hold her enough, or take enough pictures, but in truth I've always given her love and attention. But whats really going on is that I hurt that I cannot do it for her anymore because she is gone. (she's not gone, but just stay with me.)
We can never love enough or hug enough to make up for the time when we can no longer. It all comes to an end. We will kiss, make love, hold, love, care until that moment when it actively ends. Then we just hope that we kissed, loved, held and cared enough to get us through the rough time.
It won't. We will always want one more chance. And if we were given that chance. We would want another. It doesn't end
We need to accept that someone or something is gone and that we need to move on and remember fondly or accept that we gave what we could.
The other side of loving is hurt. The other side of loving is pain. The other side of living is death.
Everything is a circle and if you aren't willing to hurt then you aren't able to love.
